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The Beauty of Friendship and How Jesus Shaped Mine

03.29.2016 by Tracy Stella //

This month the Facets of Faith triad explores friendship from each of our perspective. Like a prism every angle shines light into the beauty we behold as our eyes feast on friendship and what if offers.1

It is in community that our light shines brightest. We reflect hope and the love of Christ as we authentically engage with one another. I (Tracy) pray you are surrounded with a group of radiant friends who love you for who you are—imperfections and all.

True friendship sees past our blemishes and looks for the beauty God places within us. Grace given one girlfriend to another as she chooses to see the good God made, not the gunk. She could look for what is tarnished. Instead, she sees the light within. She helps us to shine ever brighter as she walks alongside us in prayer, encouragement, and love. For her we are grateful.

Sometimes God uses friendships to buff our blemishes in a loving fashion, so our imperfections inhibit us less. It is in the context of loving and caring friendship we can hear words that challenge. When we know her heart is for us, ours remains soft and pliable to what our “sister” has to say. Friends have earned trust and the right to speak truth in love to us.

Anyone can have a conversation based on fluff. Friendship helps us share what is real in our hearts, lives, dreams, and hopes … and sometimes hurts. I’m grateful for real friends who get to see the real me and choose to love me well. Friends don’t have to. I think that’s what makes friendship so special. Friendship is a choice.

Healthy friendship isn’t black and white. It’s vibrant and full of color.  Like a rainbow the sum of all the colorful relationships bless me. If I were to pull out only the blue, or perhaps only the yellow, they would be lovely colors in and of themselves. But it’s the compilation of friendships that bring life to light and help me to live fully alive.

I am fortunate to have a rainbow of friends—a color extravaganza—who radiate Christ’s light. Individual relationships eclectic, but equally important, in the way they bless me. The cumulative impact diversity of friendships offer: they delight every nook and cranny of my heart. Some tickle my funny bone. Some scratch my cerebellum. Some sit sister-to-sister in prayer. All beautiful, their beauty seen most when you look into their hearts. One thing each of them has in common—they love Jesus.

That leads me to the question: How has a relationship with Jesus helped shape my friendships?

#1 Sometimes we need to separate from certain people. I remember feeling exceptionally lonely when I first became a believer in Christ. God separated me (at least for a season) from certain relationships. That severing had less to do with them and more to do with me. He needed to remove me from my sinful behavior. And because of that, God pulled me away from everything and everyone that would have reminded me of who I used to be, not who God was making me new to be.

#2 We are all worthy of Christian fellowship. God doesn’t have a ranking system – this one better than that.  At first, I didn’t feel worthy of Christian friendship. I deemed myself ineligible because of my sin. Not good enough to be with “God people”. But He was gracious to put me in a small group who helped me early on in my journey. They were wonderful and patient, accepting me exactly how I entered the group—pretty broken. But in walking alongside me, they helped me not to stay there.

As my confidence grew and my former feelings of shame diminished, God brought mighty women of God into my life. It boggles my brain—this amazing group of women God surrounded me with. Where once I would have been intimidated, I am now secure because I am secure in whom I am in Christ. Out of that security better relationships form.

#3 God sees what we cannot. It is best to let Him choose our friendships. I am blessed beyond measure by the beautiful relationships God has brought forth. Like a diamond, He excavated each one. He saw things I didn’t see; connections beneath the surface. Contributions I would need. Contributions I could make. God knows our past, present, and future and that of our friends’ past, present, and future. Let Him hand select what your rainbow of friends looks like. With Creator God crafting your friendships, they are bound to be equally vibrant.

#4 My relationship with Jesus reveals the importance of godly friendships. I now see the significance of my closest friendships being with those who also have a close relationship with Christ. Not in some exclusive club fashion. No. Anyone can join Club Jesus. (Say “yes” to Him and you are a member.) But in order for friendships to have significant influence in my life, I need to know they are also influenced by Christ. It’s important for my ongoing spiritual health.

Blessed is the one who does not walk in step with the wicked or stand in the way that sinners take or sit in the company of mockers, but whose delight is in the law of the LORD, and who meditates on his law day and night. That person is like a tree planted by streams of water, which yields its fruit in season and whose leaf does not wither-whatever they do prospers.—Psalm 1:1-3 NIV

I will be friendly with all, but I will allow godly friendships to be the ones authorized to speak into my life. I want to be like a tree planted by streams of water that yields good fruit. I need good friendships to do that! We all do!

How has a relationship with Jesus shaped your friendships? Join the conversation.

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Categories // Friendship, Tracy Stella's Perspective Tags // How Jesus shapes our friendships, Psalm 1:1-3

How Is My Life Different Because Of My Faith?

03.01.2016 by Tracy Stella //

If there is one thing I (Tracy) have learned about my faith it’s this: God’s faithfulness helped grow it. He took me from a place of despair and called me to believe—to believe in Him. He asked me to trust Him, a difficult task in the beginning. Others had broken my trust. Would God too?

Much later I would learn and agree with George Mueller’s words:  “I say—and say it deliberately—trials, obstacles, difficulties, and sometimes defeats, are the very food of faith.”¹

2Difficult circumstances led me to seek the Lord. My life added up to one miserable equation.  Home sweet home demolished by a bomb that set off a chain reaction. I didn’t think I could withstand it. I wanted to throw in the towel and proclaim, “Game over”!

But God threw me a lifeline instead.

“For I know the  plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.”—Jeremiah 29:11 NIV

One of my first big acts of faith was this: to believe there was something to hope for in my future. Circumstances said give up. God wanted me to keep going. Would I believe God and His Word when hope felt beyond my reach?

Hope feels brave when there’s no basis to believe it.

It is much more difficult to walk in faith those first early steps. I didn’t yet have years of God’s faithfulness to reflect upon.

Those first steps toward my hopeful future felt like they were taking me to the edge of a cliff. No parachute to help me glide to safety. What if faith stretched me so far out of my comfort zone I landed somewhere I didn’t want to be? Then what?

The “X” which marked the safe drop zone seemed far off. I couldn’t see it.

Faith has nothing to do with probabilities. The providence of faith begins where probabilities cease and sight and sense fail.¹

My life is much different because of faith. Somehow, seemingly impossible, here I sit enthroned with a crown of righteousness. The mere belief of righteousness in the face of my own sin an act of faith as well.

But that’s where faith gains traction. When we know we have right standing with God … that’s a game changer!

Right standing with God gives liberty to live our lives as God intended. We’re able to toss off all that hinders and stand with our head held high where once our eyes averted. If our eyes aren’t focused on what God sees, we’re focusing on the wrong image.

God shows me what He sees in me in a tender, merciful fashion.  Faith has taught me that.

I have courage where I once held cowardice.

Because God is who He says He is, I can be brave enough to look my sin square in the face and deal with it. Before faith was forged in me, I’d never done that.  Now I know if He asks me to peer into my sinful nature, it’s for my own good, and faith says, “Trust God. He is gentle in His reprimand when we are genuine in our repentance.”

I couldn’t change what I was unwilling to look at. Once I did (and do), I received deliverance. Sin no longer hidden brings freedom from what hinders.

Faith has given me courage to dream again. I have a beautiful life. It’s not without its difficulties, but God has shown me faith floods our lives with blessings too. He carries me from one adventure to another, and it’s so much fun. Contrary to what some in the world might think, faith is not boring. It is adrenalin filled when we are full of possibilities in Christ.

There are times in my life when I wonder What on earth am I doing and how did I get here? Walking by faith can lead us to some amazing places.  It requires obedience to get to that spot God marks out for us. “X. Right here, My daughter.” Obedience isn’t always easy (even if it should be), but it gets easier the longer we walk in faith.

Beyond all those benefits of faith (and I know there are many I haven’t mentioned) God has shown me He was so very faithful to His promise from Jeremiah 29:11.  He has given me a future far beyond anything I could have imagined.

Faith has helped me take bold action based on God’s wisdom. His power encourages me to do more with what He’s given. Not striving. In His strength, I carry out my calling.

Gone is the cowardly woman who often roared because of pain in her depths. In her place sits a lioness rising into her calling more each day.  Today, I find myself stepping into a mission to penetrate the darkness.

Faith has brought me to a place where I will be fighting for God’s daughters against the oppression of human trafficking. I would never have thought I would be sent on that mission. But then again, that’s what faith can do.

Join the conversation. How has God asked you to step out in faith? How is God asking you to respond to His call to faith today? How will your life be different when you do?

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¹Mueller, George, and A. Sims. George Mueller: Man of Faith. Eugene: Wipf and Stock Publishers, 2005.

Categories // Faith, Tracy Stella's Perspective Tags // Courage, Dream, Faith, hope, Human Trafficking, Jeremiah 29:11, Obedience, Repentance, Righteousness, Trials, Trust, Wisdom

If I had to sum up my life story, it would be this…

02.02.2016 by Tracy Stella //

In an attempt to begin our conversation, we here at FACETS of Faith want to start by sharing a bit of who we are and how we got to this point. However, when we‘re not ten any longer, how do we sum up our life’s story?

Life Story Tracy Color Image March 2016 PostIt feels impossible. A handful of words are like a drop of rain in a vast ocean, barely able to make a ripple. How can I share who I am with any depth? Yet still I try, because it’s how every good conversation starts … with an attempt to connect often through a sharing of story.

Here are a few droplets of mine. Their culmination helped carry me to where I am today.

Children begin with open and trusting hearts. I was sensitive. I could get lost nose first in a book for hours. At times, my shy side would come out, right shoulder lifted high, chin tucked down to meet it as my eyes averted whatever made me feel timid. Maddeningly, my body language still betrays me.

The problem with being sensitive without being grounded in a strong sense of who you are—you get hurt. Little by little, layer by layer, life cut deep. You lose your way. That’s what I did. I tripped and fell flat on my tear-stained face. Salt water shed as a result of life’s vast ocean, choppy at times. The downward spiral didn’t happen overnight.

We don’t have time to make every stop along memory lane, but one comes to mind. It’s small and might seem inconsequential. Like so many other drops, Satan used it to build a case of deception against me.  Drops of life distorted.

It’s third grade. The teacher asks the class to line up single file. One by one we stood. Each person on display like those prized possessions we’d bring for Show and Tell.

The class sat legs tucked beneath our wooden desks, carved initials scratched into the surface and the occasional clump of chewing gum beneath. We surveyed the room as the teacher asked us to line up one by one.

Who would like to stand next to Janice?

Hands flew up. Pick me they implored with their impatient waving.

Who would like to stand next to so and so? And so and so?

On and on it went. The class responded with exuberance to each child on display — or so it seemed as I explore the soft tissue of truth from my little girl self. It may not be exactly so, but it’s how I remember it. Excited and animated hand waving.

Who would like to stand next to Tracy?

No movement. Hands stayed still. Eyes averted.

Vulnerable and exposed it was hard to feel the not being chosen.  It seemed like I stood there for an eternity. My 3rd grade self-esteem smashed as tears tumbled. No one wanted to line up next to me, which I equated to not measuring up.

Not pretty enough.

Not good enough.

Not nice enough.

Not enough.

Not.

All those knots in my little girl stomach meant I was not.

Over years and years of knots and nots, I looked for other ways to untangle those emotions—to feel more than a not. I didn’t know who I was, nor did I feel worthy.

When a girl grows into a woman and doesn’t know her worth, waves bound to crash upon her. Scratchy sand of life abrades the skin. Ouch!

But then I met Love. Not the kind in romance novels. Real Love. The type of Love I had been searching for my entire life.

Beloved, let us love one another, for love is from God; and whoever loves has been born of God and knows God.  Anyone who does not love does not know God, because God is love. — 1 John 4:7-8 ESV (emphasis mine)

God is Love. Authentic. Genuine. Real Love. No matter what. He waves His hand and says, I want to stand by you, Tracy. I choose you. And He does. And He does. And He does. Wave after wave of lavish love that overwhelms my heart. So good. What I was searching for my whole life.

If I had to sum up my life story, it would be this…

God chose me and He loved me back to life. His love has removed many of the “nots”. He’s worked and still works to change them into “knows”. He builds my confidence as He shows how much He cares.

I am grateful for the awareness of God’s love and how that helps me to know who I really am . His truth changed my life forever. And it continues to bolster my faith and encourage me as He shows His love in big and small ways. Every way a drop to fill my life’s ocean with His love.

Why?

Certainly, He loves me.

Why else?

He has loved me well.  Now He wants His love to splash upon others who need to know it too.

Splish. Splash. Love’s mad dash to reach His daughters.

That doesn’t mean love is always easy. It wasn’t easy to receive love and it’s not always easy to give it either.

Love takes courage.

Love changes our countenance.

Love changes lives.

The risk of love is worth it. That’s what I’ve learned. I’m so glad I took the leap and dove deep into God’s love head first. When the waves of life get too choppy, I dive beneath the surface and submerse myself in God’s love again. And again.

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Categories // Life, Tracy Stella's Perspective Tags // 1 John 4:7-8, God's love, life story

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