John 1:14 Archives – Facets of Faith

Welcome to FACETS, friend. I (Jennifer) am so glad you stopped to read on this month’s topic, Who do You (God) say that I am? We’re thinking about our identity through the eyes of God, and the thoughts promise to be rich, personal, and encouraging. You can read Tracy’s thoughts here. We’re holding space for you. The Facets have thoughts to share, but your heart-shares are important to the conversation. Join us?

Who am I?

In elementary school I thought the meaning of my name was everything. Later, I believed what I said, thought, and did defined me. As an adult I introduce myself to others and share sound bites to communicate who I am.

We live in a culture that tries to group, categorize, and “type” everything out there. We describe people with those labels, and we often seek them out.

Female. Survivor. Control freak. Tony’s wife. Two adult sons’ mom. Animal lover. Singer. Writer-editor. Enneagram 5 with balanced wings (looking like a 1 in a tight spot). The rare INTJ combination. Facebook quiz-taker for more specialized personality-type information. (Who doesn’t want to know which character comes up in the Lord of the Rings Meyers-Briggs quiz?) Something down deep says, “Tell me who I am!”

All the wrong places…

We look in strange places for affirmation and clarity, don’t we? I don’t put much weight in the online quizzes but probably give them more time and energy than they deserve. I’m more likely to look to my relationships.

Husband, tell me—am I good enough? Do you still love me after all these years?
Son, I spent so much energy “not being your friend.” Do you still want to spend time with me?
Friend, do you value our time together? Do you value me?
Supervisor, is my work good enough? Am I useful?

These aren’t the exact words, but in quiet moments when I examine my relationships, I feel emotions from thoughts like these surfacing.

The company we keep…

Relationship. We might define ourselves by the company we keep. I always reminded my boys, “You might become who you hang with—” (Proverbs 13:20 ). When I married I worked through an identity shift every time I signed my name (I wrote some goofy hybrid of a letter for weeks every time I got to my last name). Now I was part of the new family my husband and I became. I joined communities of people, too: a church, a neighborhood, a workplace. Because I identified with these people in some kind of personal or professional relationship, my identity had slivers of connection that seemingly belonged to them.

The primary relationship…

Reasons and seasons can shape our friendships and connections. Once upon a time I had long, beautiful conversations with a friend nearly every day, and then life stages and availability changed things. Once upon a time feels very far away some days. Do you have a relationship like that? A little faded but precious nonetheless? The reason or season we connect can shift, and it can be painful in the “letting go,” right? (So you know, I am *not* a fan of the “for a time” thing when it’s an excuse to relieve brokenness in a relationship!)

Know what I know? There is only one (1!) relationship that transcends all reasons and seasons: the completely loving, sacrificial, adoption into to our heavenly Father’s family through Jesus’ death and resurrection and the moment-by-moment counsel and partnership with His Spirit. If this is permanence both here and in eternity, I’m in! By this adoption, I know my identity changes significantly forever.

I am…

When I humbly come to the throne of the King of the universe as a daughter, the relationship to the all-powerful, all-knowing, ever-present, merciful, and gracious God—Whew! Think about THAT!—I’m identified with and by Him!

He says I am—

But now the righteousness of God has been manifested apart from the law, although the Law and the Prophets bear witness to it—the righteousness of God through faith in Jesus Christ for all who believe. For there is no distinction: for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God and are justified by his grace as a gift, through the redemption that is in Christ Jesus Romans 2:21-24

But to all who did receive him, who believed in his name, he gave the right to become children of God John 1:12

And the Word became flesh and dwelt among us, and we have seen his glory, glory as of the only Son from the Father, full of grace and truth…For from his fullness we have all received, grace upon grace. John 1:14, 16

“I am the true vine, and my Father is the vinedresser…I am the vine; you are the branches. Whoever abides in me and I in him, he it is that bears much fruit, for apart from me you can do nothing. John 15:1, 5

No longer do I call you servants, for the servant does not know what his master is doing; but I have called you friends, for all that I have heard from my Father I have made known to you. John 15:15

“But when the Helper comes, whom I will send to you from the Father, the Spirit of truth, who proceeds from the Father, he will bear witness about me. John 15:26

I don’t know if you see a “John 15” theme here, but I do. That’s one place in Scripture where we can find golden nuggets that call out the goodness of God in relationship to Him. There are so many places, though! The Word of God specifically expresses the heart, mind, and will of God. Drink it in, friend! Regularly.

Fill the Void

We should fill that identity void with the richness of our relationship to our Father, the Creator and King of the universe, the God with us and within us. (Mmm—that beautiful Trinity that our God is! That’s how He gives all of Himself to us!) We are refined and defined by our relationship to Him.

What do you think about that? I might cry when I begin to get a small glimpse or grasp of it all. You, too? Share below or at our Facebook page.

Ponder this:
Where do you look to define your identity?
Who or what tells you who you are—really?
Which relationship speaks the loudest to your mind and heart about your identity?
How do you know who’s telling you who you are?
Do you know (and believe!) who you are in God’s eyes?

We’ve got quite the line up at FACETS! We have precious thoughts from Tracy, Kim (next week), and you’ll have a chance to read our friend, Kelli Worrall. If you don’t know her yet, you need to! Check back the fourth week for her guest post. I know you’ll love it!

“March—in like a lion and out like a lamb.” Do you remember that from elementary school, too? That was the springboard thought for this month’s topic. Then we thought about the character of Jesus. Have you noticed He is called “the Lamb of God, who takes away the sins of the world” and “the Lion of Judah” in the Bible? These are two of my (Jennifer) favorite names. I notice something about the natures embedded in them. One reveals to me the deeply compassionate and huge nature of Jesus. The other makes me think of a confident, powerful nature. Ah, the multi-faceted nature of God! As the team settled into the topic, we wondered how each of us is multi-faceted, too.

Which of God’s character qualities can I see in my own life?

Grace and truth. That’s a tricky balance, isn’t it? I can get flustered when I think about these two character traits doing their intricate dance in my life. I’m uneasy about “grace” that I think might squeak and scamper into a corner. I’m personally more familiar with “truth” that dons a black robe and wields an over-sized gavel with a BANG!

But Jesus—

The Word became flesh and took up residence among us. We observed His glory, the glory as the One and Only Son from the Father, full of grace and truth. John 1:14 CSB

Jesus is grace and truth!

When I get muddled in the grace-truth balance, friends remind me of something super-important—our God doesn’t have a wimpy approach to offenses. He doesn’t wink at sin because it damages our hearts and our relationship to Him and others. I’ll limit this post to the category of sin including offenses. (My understanding of sin is richer than that.)

The truth of sin has to be acknowledged. That might make me happy if I had success in perfect living or I felt offended and hoped someone would receive their “just desserts.” But when I’m gut-level honest, I might be overwhelmed by the truth of every known and unknown offense I’ve dished to family, friends, and ultimately my Abba. Then I should be forever grateful for the goodness of truth and grace!

That said, this slice of my life includes a study of the book of Romans. Chapter one is an eye-opener when it comes to truth. I’m reminded that God’s truth will not be mocked.

For God’s wrath is revealed from heaven against all godlessness and unrighteousness of people who by their unrighteousness suppress the truth…They exchanged the truth of God for a lie, and worshiped and served something created instead of the Creator, who is blessed forever. Amen. Romans 1:18, 25

There are consequences for knowing God, not acknowledging Him, and not being thankful: a darkened mind (1:21) and ugly heart. That’s something I don’t want for myself or anyone, but that’s where the path leads. I want to be sensitive to truth and respond well. And I sure don’t want to hide it from anyone who hasn’t been introduced to it yet or might ignore it. But how? I’m going to let that question sit for now—

I’ve received boundless grace from God, and it is the very thing He hopes I’ll extend to others. Actually, it’s more than hope; He commands it.

Be on your guard. If your brother sins, rebuke him, and if he repents, forgive him. And if he sins against you seven times in a day, and comes back to you seven times, saying, ‘I repent,’ you must forgive him.” Luke 17:3-4

I’m tempted to breathe a sigh of relief when I see “rebuke him” because it feels like some kind of control after a tough exchange. But letting someone know they’ve done wrong is loving and gracious. After all, offenses should be acknowledged. Then I focus on “if he repents, forgive him.” When someone responds well, there’s a command: forgive. I must! The “seven times in a day” leaps off the page. Grace after an offense—forgiveness—is the gift I’ve been given, and it’s the gift I lavish time and again.

My story, like yours, is chock-full of difficult interactions. Some events may be more extreme or shocking than many women have experienced, but that’s not my point. Our offenses are not fewer or less significant than others’. What’s helpful but challenging to remember in ugly situations is this:

Indeed, we have all received grace after grace from His fullness, for although the law was given through Moses, grace and truth came through Jesus Christ. John 1:16-17

Moses’ law revealed the problem of sin. Through Jesus, the problem was solved completely and permanently. All the offenses—mine and yours, forgotten and remembered—were addressed truthfully (acknowledged) and graciously (the debt to Holy God was settled). Each of us is invited into confession, repentance, and belief (1 John 1:9).

I know this truth. In love, I share it. By grace I want to live out of it with others. Why? Because—

…whenever you stand praying, if you have anything against anyone, forgive him, so that your Father in heaven will also forgive you your wrongdoing. Mark 11:25

My God is no vending machine. And prayer is more than the laundry list of requests, let’s be clear. But a clean heart makes all the difference in connecting heart-to-heart with Him. That’s the prayer conversation I want with my Father in heaven—hearing Him and thankful I’m heard.

And relationships with others? Nothing is better than knowing you are loved at your worst. Sure, we are liked and even loved at our best, but that’s easy. The rough moments mirror the Lion and the Lamb in everyday life, right?

Thanks for reading, friends. What you think about this month’s topic? Pop a comment in below or at the Facebook page. Are you choosing to know truth, reveal it, and be gracious in the process, too?

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